#1 Happiness
Advice: You should do whatever it takes to be happy. Do not
stay stuck in a relationship full of unhappiness and pain. Chances are if
you’re unhappy your partner will be unhappy too.
That being said: There is no such thing as a happy relationship. If you are happy,
constantly happy for more than three months, I’d advise you to see a doctor,
because you’re most likely in the Twilight Zone. Or dead and this could very
well be Hell. No one wakes up every day happy. No one. But no one should wake
up every day unhappy either. Of course, why is it we always find ourselves
willing to do it? Why are we willing to pretend, and fake happiness when really
we know the truth? Lying to your friends
is easy. “Of course I’m fine.” Lying to your family is a little harder because
they know you so well. “No, really it was just a fight.” Lying to your
significant other is easier, because really, they don’t even question your
word. But lying to yourself, that’s the hardest. And if for one second you are
not happy, if you even have to question you are happy, than you are not happy. I find that it’s always too late that you stop
and ask yourself what happiness is. And happiness isn’t looking back at all the
good times with a smile on your face. And those instances don’t set the bar for
being happy either. But it’s a feeling. A feeling deep in your gut that you
don’t have to lie to yourself. That the last couple of days really have been that good. So yes, you
should always strive to be happy. And yes, you should always put you first. But that’s just advice.
Advice that is definitely not that easy to take. Happiness is not supposed to
be a general feeling that you achieve by clumping the good and the bad when the
good outweighs the shitty. Of course that’s all good advice. And even so, you
are jumping on the “Self-sacrificing” train and buying a ticket to
“I’d-do-anything-to-make-them-happyVille.” With a detour at
“I’d-rather-they-be-happyLand”. And that’s okay. Because after all the advice
you’ve listened to, and after all the conversations with yourself, it’ll be
nice to just sit down and ride the locomotive to your destination. Wherever
that is. And hey, I’ll leave the window seat open next to me for you.
